⏰ He Said: “What Time Do We Need to Be There?”

💋 She Said: “I’ve Told You Three Times.”

The Fight That’s Stuck on Repeat—Literally!

It’s a normal day.
He’s tying his shoes, asking what time they need to leave.
She doesn’t look up.

“I’ve told you three times.”

And just like that, what started as a simple question turns into a standoff between two entirely different thinking styles.

🧠 Why It Happens (and No, He’s Not an Idiot… Exactly)

I’ll go ahead and admit it: I’m the guy who asks again.
Not because I don’t care — it just doesn’t stick.

As Mark Twain joked,

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”

Apparently, that applies to times, events, and the grocery list.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see men and women really are wired differently.
Neuroscience backs it up — men’s brains process details more compartmentally, while women’s connect everything to emotion and context.

Or as Bill and Pam Farrel put it,

“Men are like waffles — they process life in boxes. Women are like spaghetti — everything is connected to everything else.”

Translation:
She stores “Dinner at 6” in her mental calendar.
He stores “Dinner” somewhere between I’m hungry and I’ll wing it.

So when he asks again, he’s not ignoring her — he’s just… switching compartments.

💬 What It Really Means

She hears the repeat question as “you weren’t listening.”
He means it as “remind me, so I don’t screw this up.”

As Doug Heffernan from King of Queens would say,

“I heard her the first time — I just needed a second hearing to actually understand it.”

It’s not that one’s careless and one’s controlling — it’s that both relate to details differently.

The tension isn’t about memory — it’s about mental load.
She feels unseen; he feels accused.
Both are right!

⚡ Real Talk: My Marriage Edition

Amy and I have run this one so many times we deserve an Olympic gold metal.
She’ll say, “I told you already.”
And I’ll say, “Yeah, but I obviously didn’t hear it then.”

That’s marriage code for: I was pretending to listen while my brain was somewhere else.

❤️ The Fix (That Actually Works)

For him:
Stop treating your wife like a personal assistant. If she has to repeat herself three times, it’s not a memory problem — it’s a respect problem.
Write it down. Set a reminder. Prove she matters enough to remember what she says.

For her:
Don’t take it as defiance. He’s not ignoring you — his brain was just in another waffle compartment at the time.
Repeat once, breathe, and let it go.

As Stephen Covey said,

“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”

💡 Final Thought

This isn’t about time — it’s about teamwork. Your partner isn’t the enemy.
You can either be right, or you can be on time and still speaking.

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