Marriage Mythbusters #4
Even the Happiest Couples Disagree. The Difference Is How They Do It.
Christopher Lunn
10/9/20252 min read
🔥 Marriage Mythbusters #4:
“Happy Couples Don’t Fight”
Why conflict isn’t a threat — it’s an opportunity to grow closer
“If we were really happy, we wouldn’t fight.”
It sounds comforting — like love should always feel calm and easy.
Like a Jimmy Buffett song.
But that myth has quietly wrecked more relationships than most people realize.
The truth is, even the healthiest, most loving couples disagree.
The difference isn’t whether they fight — it’s how they fight.
💬 Real Love Isn’t Silent
Avoiding conflict might seem like the right thing to do, at first.
We’re keeping the peace, right?
But that “peace” often hides unspoken tension — like a volcano building pressure beneath the surface.
Every time we stay quiet to “keep the peace,” we throw a little more fuel on the fire.
Eventually, just a small spark, will turn into an explosion.
True peace doesn’t come from avoiding conflict — it comes from walking through it together, honestly and consistently.
🪞 Your Spouse Is Not the Enemy
When tensions rise, it’s easy to slip into battle mode — me vs. you.
But the truth is, your spouse is not the enemy.
The problem is the enemy.
You’re on the same team, facing it together.
When you start seeing conflict as us vs. the issue, everything shifts.
Walls come down, and that argument becomes a doorway to deeper connection.
❤️ Conflict Can Build Connection
Healthy couples don’t avoid hard moments — they face them.
They pause before reacting.
They listen to understand, not to win.
They repair instead of retreating.
😉 And Let’s Be Honest…
Sometimes the best part about a fight is the making up. 😉
More fights mean more making up — sounds like a win-win!
🌱 Growth, Not Perfection
Happy couples don’t have perfect communication — they just keep practicing.
They learn, forgive, and choose love, even when it’s messy.
So if you and your spouse have disagreements, don’t panic — you’re normal.
Conflict isn’t the end of peace.
It’s the soil where deeper love can grow.
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