Marriage Mythbusters #5
Love begins with emotion, but thrives through intention.
Christopher Lunn
10/9/20252 min read
🔥 Marriage Mythbusters #5: “Love Alone Is Enough"
💭 The Myth We All Want to Believe
The myth goes like this: “If you truly love each other, everything will work out.”
It sounds romantic — but it quietly sets couples up for confusion and disappointment.
Because while feelings are powerful, they aren’t self-sustaining.
The truth is, feelings of love are the spark that start the fire — but without attention, effort, and understanding, even the brightest flame can fade.
💬 When “Love” Isn’t Translating
Many couples go years without realizing how differently they experience love.
We assume our partner feels cared for because we would feel loved that way.
But what if they need something completely different? That’s where tools like The 5 Love Languages can make a huge difference.
Most couples discover they’ve been giving love in their own language — not their spouse’s. Once you see it, it changes everything. If you’ve never identified your love languages together, check out the resources in our Foundations of Communication section.
It includes guides on love languages, communication styles, and the Enneagram — all designed to help you understand each other better.
🧭 Turning Feelings Into Action
Love is a wonderful emotion, but healthy marriages run on action.
Here are a few simple, practical ways to make love visible every day:
Words of Affirmation: Speak life into your spouse. A kind text, a compliment, or a sincere “thank you” can reshape the mood at home.
Acts of Service: Be intentional in tackling a task before they ask. Love shows up in effort.
Quality Time: Turn off the phone and TV, and give undivided attention — even briefly
Physical Touch: A warm hand, hug, or kiss can restore closeness faster than words sometimes can.
❤️ The Real Work of Lasting Love
Love isn’t supposed to be effortless — it’s supposed to be intentional.
The couples who thrive aren’t the ones who never argue or drift; they’re the ones who keep learning each other’s hearts.
So if things feel off, don’t panic. It doesn’t mean your marriage is broken.
It simply means it’s time to learn again, to listen again, and to love on purpose.
🔗 Take the Next Step
If you’re ready to strengthen your foundation:
Explore our Foundations of Communication page to uncover your love languages and communication style.
Visit our Counseling page for faith-aligned, professional support to help you reconnect.
Browse our Courses to grow together through practical, self-paced learning tools.
Because love isn’t enough on its own — but love in action can change everything.